The Six Human Needs [Four Fundamental Needs & 2 Primary/Essential Needs]

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The Six Human Needs [Four Fundamental Needs & 2 Primary/Essential Needs]
– life can be a balancing act, like a see-saw of competing needs

1. Connection/Love
– also through bonding, sharing, feeling a part of, being at one with or intimate with others
– to both receive & give love

2. Certainty/Comfort
– ability to produce, eliminate or avoid stress, or create, increase or intensify pleasure
– people want this feeling in jobs & relationships
– jobs – on a cultural level – represent security [but is this today an illusion?]

3. Uncertainty/Variety
– so as to not be bored
– can also be described as surprise, difference, diversity, challenge or excitement

4. Significance
– a sense of being needed or having a purpose, uniqueness or the need to feel important

[primary needs now follow]
5. Growth
– personal growth
– if you help others to be fulfilled, you will be fulfilled

6. Contribution
– give to be fulfilled

There are destructive, neutral & constructive ways to meet needs:
1. Connection/Love
– sympathy through sickness/injury
– crime
– smoking
– drugs
– gangs
– attempting to get others to comply with your requests
– relationships
– spirituality
– being in natural surroundings
– pets
– sex
– beauty or art
– self-sacrifice
– joining a team

2. Certainty/Comfort
– control
– consistency
– food
– learned helplessness
– negative identity
– completion
– identity
– faith
– belief in guidance
– saving money
– debt reduction
– insurance
– traditions
– hugs

3. Uncertainty/variety
– alcohol
– drugs
– gambling
– self-sabotage
– new relationships
– new job
– new location
– stimulating conversation
– taking on new challenges
– learning
– re-focussing your goals
– picking an argument
– investing
– extreme sport

4. Significance
– tearing others down
– violence
– negative identity
– disease & disorder
– material possessions
– academic degrees
– accomplishments
– style
– development of new skills & knowledge
– growing levels of caring or extraordinary compassion
– scarcity
– saving
– being a leader
– teaching

Guides to positive & pro-social action:
– it feels good / it does not feel good
– it is good for you
– it is good for others
– it serves the greater good

Source: what I didn’t learn at school but wish I had (McIntyre & Barker, 2005)

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