Simple steps to well-being [APA]

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Simple steps to well-being [APA]

Summary:
– Interview with Dr Hayes
– 4 steps to a happier life:
1) Get inspired
– Take a step forward, even if it is just a small step
– Focus on what your core values are
– also What a person enjoys doing and what builds them up
2) Assessing the stress in your life
– pay attention to your body’s signs of / response to stress
– Figure out what are the stressors are in your life
3) Pay attention to your thinking
– Assess how your thinking is contributing to your stress levels
4) Take action

– Stress can cause a significant disconnect between your body and mind
– It can leave you feeling run down, Both physically and mentally

Mindfulness:
– Paying attention to the present moment without thinking about the past or future
– Quickest way to do it: Just focus on your breath (& The feeling of air going in and out your nostrils with your breath)
– This acts to calm your body
– Assists you to let go of the judgements (& The cognitive dialogues that we tend to have in our heads)
– This opens us up to ourselves & the world
– It assists us to be compassionate (Which feels much better than judgementalism, & allows us to feel & be more positive rather than negative)
– It also slows us down so we are less reactive & are able to act more thoughtfully
– Stress skews our thinking towards the negative (In such a state, we typically discount the positive or do not even perceive it)
– It therefore enables us to consider other possibilities

– Most people go to therapy, in her view, because of relationship difficulties &/or being/feeling overwhelmed by everything they have to do [including social media & constant stimuli]
– The greatest source of human suffering is disconnection from one another

Thought traps: What we feel we should or have to do. Examples include:
– Things we go over and over
– Particular conclusions we are drawn towards in response to behaviours directed towards you
– types of thinking such as catastrophising – constant “what if” or “if only…” Scenarios In relation to the future & the past [this causes more stress & usually means that we are less likely to change]; also watch for shoulds (these tend to increase anxiety & decrease motivation to change) – instead try: I would like to… But …. (This stops you beating yourself up / boosts your self-compassion
– loss causes stress

Source: Speaking of Psychology | American Psychological Association |
podcast Date: 7 July 2014

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