You & Your Anxious Child

Albano – You & Your Anxious child pp 72-87 – Main ideas:
– Don’t do for the child But help child problem solve & And see the world more realistically
– Help her engage
– Ask her questions (When sHe is in distress)
– What are you thinking?
– What are you feeling?
– What are you doing? & What could you do instead?
6 Steps: (Note: Ultimately we want the child do this for themselves)
1. Spot the signs
– the feelings in her body & her emotions
– some suggested homework (Pictures in magazines, role-playing, labelling emotions)
– don’t be afraid – as the parent to talk about how you feel (age-appropriate) & model coping & calm
2. Chill out
– Remind child if they can calm down they will be able to think more clearly and cope better
– watch over-breathing or hyper-ventilating As this prepares as for the fight fight response
– Quick breathing can make us feel faint and anxiety Can make us feel sick In the tummy
– Breathing in the ways shown here will help calm us down
– Lie down
– Place hand on belly
– Now imagine there is a balloon in your belly – any colour – You choose
– Imagine a tube running from the back of your throat down into your belly & At the end of the tube is the balloon
– As you inhales slowly feel how the balloon under your hand fills up and makes your stomach grow (To 3 slowly; then pause)
– Now exhale slowly see you have a tummy that deflates
– Practice at home with a couple toy doll on your belly to get really good make it go up and down say five minutes a day Telenity
– Progressive muscle relaxation helps teach us the difference between feeling stressed and feeling relaxed
– Practice at bedtime As this is been shown to help with sleep
– Let’s practice now
3. Match fears with reality through detective thinking
– Help children to look at things realistic
– Watch that you are not reassuring the child getting them to problem solve – We are challenging their catastrophic thinking (That’s the worst is going to happen)
4. Problem solved or develop a deal with it plan
– Like brainstorming – good and bad ideas are all thrown into the mix, & then assessed
5. Bounty for bravery or Rewards
– Praise praise praise even the smallest of steps
– Remember the focus is upon effort rather than achievement
– Say what you like about her efforts
– Rewards should be simple reasonable and involve the child
6. Ready set go – graduated fear exposure or stepladders/ staircases incorporating the worry scale, detective thinking & problem-solving


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