Mark Taylor | Canberra Psychologist | How to counter separation anxiety?

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Mark Taylor | Canberra Psychologist
1.- Establish a routine
– Such as having a farewell catchphrase: Have A lovely day (Followed by a kiss)
– Say I will see you when school finishes
– Then leave quickly
[Make sure your child knows what to do in case you are late]
2. Resilience building
– frame the conflict or trouble by comparing it with hardships That others less fortunate have to deal with. This does not mean you downplay your child’s concern or trouble; Into size resilient strategies are vital for life
– Project forward: Acknowledge the pain and worry that he or she is currently feeling, a but be positive by looking to the future and highlight the valuable lessons she/he is learning
– If appropriate highlight that he does not have the problem – maybe the problem is not his but belongs to the other person
– Discuss why the other person may have been hurt & what may be done to fix things up
– Use humour to counteract feeling bad – Trying to see the funny side turning worry on its head – this has to be done sensitively and timing is everything
– Give unconditional love – Reinforce that he is loved and is okay even when others are telling him he is not
[Source: Irvine & Stewart, 2008]

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