Managing Children’s Behaviour: STEP 1: STOP, LOOK & LISTEN

– Good not to react impulsively
– Eliminates the guess work and assumptions
– Allows parents to get to the back situation
– Means less mistakes
– Means not being as emotional:
(Begging, yelling, arguing, criticising, putting down, preaching, smacking)
[Smacking constitutes attention and can be reinforcing for the child, especially when followed by a confusing cuddle]
– Better modelling of desired behaviours
– Less emotional talk
– Less talking too much (Children tend to switch off anyway)
– You’re not inadvertently re-enforcing the negative behaviour by paying it more attention than the good behaviours; you may also wish to check if you are inadvertently reinforcing helplessness & dependence on you
[Don’t despair – these are the most common parenting errors]
Check short-term gains are not coming at the price of long-term costs]

source: Social savvy help your child fit in with others : Lindy Peterson (Clinical Psychologist)


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